Hi, how are you today? I am going to tell you how to overcome the fear of public speaking? Do you know what public speaking is? And how to speak in front of people. That may be a hundred, or huge crowd but when you get the chance to speak in front of the people. How do you respond? Are you directly going to the Dias or are you fearing to speak and escape going to the Dias? 99% of the people fear speaking on the dais because of glossophobia.
But how do get over Fear of public speaking? Today, I decided to share important tips with you that help you and educate you to overcome the fear of speaking. According to my knowledge, most people fear speaking in front of even four people. It might be unusual for you but it is true.
Moreover, I will tell you How to achieve inner peace mind when you are presenting speaking skills.
Here we will discuss some common characteristics of fear-mongering of public speaking and feelings when they get a chance to speak.
What causes fear of public speaking and real life examples
Dear friends, today, I would like to share with you my real-life experience that happened when I was studying 9th class. One day, my school announced that they were going to conduct a competition in my school. I was also one of the participants. Finally, the day came on that day the whole students were gathered at the meeting hall and teachers were Sat On The Dias.
Meanwhile, the event started and 10 students completed their speech, and then it was my time. The teacher was called my name to invite me up on the dais at that moment a sudden earthquake started happening in my mind that my body was started shivering, palms were getting sweaty, my neck was shrinking, My throat was getting dry, and I became blank and moreover I was getting severe anxiety, embarrassment, and nervousness.
Finally, I got up and I couldn’t understand what I was saying. Within 10 minutes I closed my speech and returned back to my place.
The students started laughing at me and the Teachers were also disappointed because I couldn’t do what they expected from me and felt very ashamed and guilty.
Then I decided I would never speak in the future. Still, I remember that it was an unforgettable bad experience and bitter incident in my life. It was also a Nightmare in my life and had a big negative impact on my life.
One side has impacted me negatively and the other side has taught me some important lessons. So that dear Friends speech Anxiety is a major negative characteristic That will interrupt and impact your career personally and socially. it is a setback and major weakness and It will impact your total life and your future, and education.
it will degrade you in society that’s why here I am requesting you never feel nervous when you speak to someone. Whatever the size of the crowd, don’t hesitate to speak, and whatever you know and how much you can speak and what knowledge you have.
Just go and express your ideas and don’t feel ashamed because once you step back it will impact your entire life. So that whenever you get the chance to speak, don’t lose that opportunity and utilize it and go ahead and take it as a challenge and grow up in the future.
What’s my biggest public speaking fear?
I will tell you one more awkward behavior of mine about public fear. Most of the people, most of the time, will fail to speak in front of small gatherings because of their speech anxiety. and some people who were from childhood Utter few words all day. Similarly, I am also one of those people.
Because it is not good character as a human being we have to speak, we have to communicate, we have to interact with the people, we have to express our thoughts, and we have to generate ideas that have to be admired by people. Then only you will be successful in society. Without speaking, how can we convince other people to succeed in your business and in your real life?
If you want to become a successful person, if you want to clear any kind of interview, you should have better communication and speaking skills. Without them, you can’t go ahead. When you start speaking, then opportunities come and you will be successful in that field. Otherwise, you can get bad results in your life.
Since childhood, I was a very shy and inferiorly complex person. If you believe me or not, I used to utter 5 to 10 words all day. That was my attitude and character and my personality. Due to these weaknesses, I have lost many opportunities even if I have so much knowledge. I couldn’t reach what I wished for because of fear of speaking, fear of success, fear of results, fear of the future, and fear of the past.
Now I will tell you one of my awkward behaviors regarding speaking skills: whenever I came outside if anybody came across me, I tried to escape from them. Because I was very shy to speak and my mind was hesitating to speak.
What causes you more fear to speak?
Most of the time, I would like to spend time alone and I don’t like to speak too much. I am always thinking about something limitlessly and also when I am thinking I don’t know what I am thinking and how far away I am going to think. Frankly, I am one type of multi-disaster person. Because I don’t know what I think, what I imagine, and how far I go.
If you also have any of these characters, it is time to refresh your absurd characteristics. If you are also vulnerable to these weaknesses, then it is time to change yourself. Because if you postpone it, it will become a more serious and severe personality disorder. Then it will become more difficult to change it again.
So if you want to change your attitude, behavior, speech anxiety, and personal skills, and anything you feel very weak. First of all, you have to change some important characteristics within you. As I know it is not a big challenge and not difficult to change any kind of character and any kind of thoughts, and any kind of behavior within you.
Because it is the whole process of your thinking. It all depends on how you are thinking? Here, I am not talking about people who are not willing to change and I am talking about the people who are willing to change, willing to go ahead, willing to develop their skills, and willing to develop themselves in society.
In the beginning, it is very difficult to change yourself but if you are trying and if you put consistent efforts, gradually you can observe sudden changes within you. I am promising you here, definitely, your life will be changed in your future. If you become strong, you can succeed in any kind of field.
I wish, everyone in this society should have equal status, equal respect, equal sharing, and equal knowledge. To become everyone as brilliant, we all together strive to gain superior knowledge that helps us to improve our livelihood socially and economically. Also, to achieve everything in your life, you should have great communication skills other than this you don’t require wealth and big assets.
What is Fear of Speaking?
Believe me, if you have strong speaking skills, you can peer into any kind of field. I saw many people in society who grew up in front of my eyes. Some people may take a few days and Some people will take a long time, it is not important. It is important to have dedication, hard work, passion, and persistence.
Until you reach a goal, you never give up, just try and try, and fight and fight and grow up.
Usually, some people laugh at you, some people encourage, and some people discourage you whoever makes you uncomfortable and nervous but if you never give up then only you succeed in the future.
I will tell you something interesting story I hope which will help you to improve your skills that Phobia of success and fear of speaking can’t help you to grow up. Pragmatism will help you to grow up in your life and how much you think is not important and how much you do hard work is not important and it is important that you have to learn smart skills, creative ideas, and practical skills.
What is a fear of public speaking? It is a glossophobia that pulls you back, causes nervousness, anxiety, discomfort, sweat, shivering, and increases heart beating. When you get to speak, why are you fearing? Audiences are the same as you, they are not superior, and they are not anything more than you and they are similar to people like you.
They may come from different backgrounds, and they would have higher positions and have more knowledge than you but your knowledge is yours and your unique style is yours and you are always a special person to others. Other than that no human being is superior to anyone in this society. First of all, you have to identify your strengths, skills, and prominence.
You have to respect yourself and you have to identify your presentation skills.
How to overcome the fear of talking to someone,even with strangers
Are you afraid to speak with neighbors, strangers, and other surrounding people? Most people have a strong desire to talk to other people they like. But they fear to initiate speaking with them because of their inferiority complex, shyness, anxiety, nervousness, and Depression. But how to talk with other people? And how to initiate your talk and how to introduce yourself to others? Most people are really shy to talk with strangers.
They don’t like to start speaking and they are very shy, timid, And embarrassed. They don’t know how to initiate talking and they are reserved, and They are overthinking. So what is the solution to overcome the fear of talking to someone?
Here is the small tip that will help you to initiate and speak and mingle with other people, and even with strangers. Just start with a single word whatever they assume and Wait they will respond definitely. Don’t expect fast results from them. Just ensure your talk, whatever the world. Once you start speaking, and the other side, they will respond to you.
Whenever you meet new people, try to talk with them and Don’t miss that opportunity. Whether it is important or not. Just begin speaking with them. If you try like this, whenever you get the chance that habit will develop in your mind. Once you succumb to that habit whenever you meet new people you can start talking easily. You can overcome your fear of speaking to someone gradually.
How to overcome the fear of communication by Practising
What are communication skills? and how to improve your communication skills? And how do you communicate with people? Are you afraid to express your own thoughts and ideas? then read this solution: how to communicate with people without fear? If you have fear in your mind, you can’t communicate well with people.
Communication needs clarity, a clear perspective, and a transparent message. Then only your message will be reached to the other people. Then, they will be able to understand the idea, message, thought, and expression behind your speech. Then he can understand and receive your message perfectly. So whenever you speak to others, maintain a clear and meaningful talk to impress them.
Communication means passing the correct and meaningful message to the people that will convince them easily. When you communicate with people, you should show a good attitude and speech in the structural form. How do I learn to communicate with other people? For that, you have to speak more and more, and you have to behave very well, and you have to show gratitude to people whom you are speaking to. They will respond quickly if your communication is good, otherwise, they will try to avoid you.
Some Public speaking anxiety tricks and techniques
Are there any tricks and techniques to overcome public speaking anxiety? Yes, there are a few but how much they can help you to get over the fear of speaking in public. As I know they don’t help you much, they can only teach you how to travel on a single path without deviating from the original path. Actually, I don’t like tricks and techniques because they will help you when you are in the initial stage after getting some stage.
They help you with nothing. That’s why I like the pragmatism that can help you and exist with you for a long time. If you want to improve public speaking skills, we have to practice more and more. In fact, in the beginning, you will face anxiety, nervousness, depression, and disappointment but later you can understand how to speak and how to present your speaking skills well in front of a huge crowd.
That comes to maybe around 20000 or 50000 and 50k to 100000 gatherings. Whatever the size of the crowd, once you become an expert in speaking. You can speak up to any size of the crowd for that we have to start. Start practicing at small events, and whenever you get the chance to speak, don’t miss the opportunity and go and utilize that opportunity to express your feelings, ideas, and thoughts in front of people.
Gradually you can overcome and become more confident. That will help you to improve 10/10 your energy to strengthen your energy more and more and finally you become enthusiastic to give any kind of speech in front of the people. At last, you have to initiate the deed, without initiating it, you never achieve anything in your life. Probably most of the people only think and imagine but they never initiate speaking.
Thinking can only help you to frame your speech but if you want to overcome the fear of speaking, you have to initiate the action. Without taking the initial step, you can never overcome the fear of public speaking. What am I saying here? First of all, initiate the single step then the second step, and next try and try more. One day you will become a confident speaker and the best communicator.
What is severe presentation anxiety? and How to Idenitfy it?
What are server presentation and anxiety? According to studies, some people tremble to speak in front of even a small crowd. When they called upon the dais, their whole body started shaking, getting sweaty, nervous, embarrassed and their neck started thinking and they could not stand up in their position straightly and moreover, they didn’t know what they were saying. They are timid to speak, stammering, and they don’t like to come in front of people.
When you are calm, peaceful, and happier, then more ideas come into your mind that enhances your speaking level.
And they try to escape from the chance. They will hide behind the crowd. They couldn’t even see directly into the faces of the audience. And they were completely nervous and they lost their energy, everything. Moreover, they assume they are going to die. Even if they have audience support, They will resist coming to the dais, which means they are suffering from glossophobia[Severe Presentation Anxiety].
What is fear of public speaking medication? Is it Good?
Is there any medication practice to overcome the fear of public speaking? it is there but how far can it help you to overcome the fear of taking? As per my knowledge medication will help you in short time relaxation and relief. If you want to become a complete person, How to learn natural skills? I never recommend any medication help because then it will cause you side effects mentally and physically.
Medication reduces your strength physically and mentally. So never use medication to get over the fear of speaking in public, just try to learn in a natural way until you become a better public speaker.
Is medication the solution for overcoming fear of public speaking? absolutely it is not because if you use a heavy dose of medicine, it can harm your health. You can be mentally and physically weak, that’s why you shouldn’t go for medicine. If you want to improve your awesome speaking skills, you have to practice as much as you can.
I remember how I practiced all the time morning, evening, and night. Whatever time I am free I try to practice speaking. Even if I don’t know whether I am speaking correctly or not, and I do not have a guide, and I do not have any coach. And I didn’t try to train.
But I can speak better English somewhat perfectly. If you are too shy to practice in front of people, choose a lonely place, and go there and practice whatever subject you know. Just start speaking on it. Whether your speech is correct or not, just go on, for this first of all you have to get Confidence and correct pronunciation.
When you are speaking, you can identify your pronunciation style. if you pronounce it wrongly, practice again and correct it. thus you can correct your speaking pattern yourself. The more you think the more you tire. So the only way is to practice more and more. In the beginning, you fail to speak but don’t feel nervous. It will take some time for some people To get Confidence.
If you have any fear in your mind, you will never learn speaking skills. To overcome that you have to overcome a fear then what you are speaking will be clear. If you are always afraid to speak, how is it possible? It is possible only through real-time practice. Act like go and stand up and hold a mic in your hand and start practicing speech.
Like this, you have to practice until you get to a conference and until you understand what you are saying. then only if you make any mistakes, you can find them and can correct yourself. Over time, the fear will vanish.
In the beginning days, I also didn’t like to come in front of people. Even in front of the 5 members, I don’t like to speak. I used to try to leave the stage. I was very shy and insecure, an inferiority complex person. Since then I have struggled more and more, believe me, or not, I am afraid to speak even before the four people.
Then one day I thought, “What is my purpose in life and what do I want to achieve in my life? Why am I afraid to open up my mind to this society? What is the purpose of my life? And Why I am behaving uniquely different from others.
In fact, some of the people can present their skills easily and also they can express their ideas. And they can achieve what they wish. That’s why they become successful people in this world. Because of their strong, courageous, and confident personalities. Here I am afraid to speak, work, and fear of success.
Then what is the purpose of my life? and what is a meaningful life? You have to think for yourself, you have to introspect yourself, cherish yourself, and grow. Nobody is ready to help you other than guidance. And nobody can’t come into your mind and repair it. You have to change the way of thinking, the way of behavior, the way of attitude, and the way of interaction with other people.
How many years do you require to change and think for yourself? Our life is very small. During this period, we have to utilize our maximum energy to reach powerboats to succeed in life. If you are still struggling with that fear of speaking, then now is the time to leave it. Just leave it and start life And bring success into your life.
Welcome the failures, disappointments, worries, and discouragements. These are the common things that travel in your success journey that you can never avoid that are part of your life journey. But what can you do to avoid them, just don’t think about them and leave them aside? And you have to concentrate on what you want and what you want to achieve. We have to put consistent efforts into work and dedication, then you will become a successful person in your career.
Whatever field you choose, once you have learned how to succeed in a particular field. automatically you will succeed in another field. Because you know how to gain success because now you are a strong and courageous person. So my dear readers here is what I am telling, first of all, leave a fear aside works and other past ambitions. If you want to change yourself, you have to start afresh life, Fresh thoughts and use unique methods to work.
How I overcame my fear of public speaking in Long Time
So now I will tell you my personal story of how I overcame my fear of public speaking. When I was younger, I was a very shy and inferiorly Complex person. I couldn’t even speak to my neighbors, my friends, relatives, and strangers. After several years, it grew as a big challenge. As I am growing, I couldn’t speak in front of people, even in front of the five members. During childhood, I have lost many opportunities.
Since then I don’t like to mingle with gatherings, and I always tried to escape from gatherings like events, festivals, and occasional functions. Due to that, I have lost power, human relations, and many more that impacted my life socially and financially.
I could not achieve anything other than the fear of speaking. After so many years, I have realized what I am. Then I decided to change my attitude, behavior, communication, and speaking skills. I tried more and more to learn speaking skills. After I started speaking more and more in front of people, I gained confidence and good communication skills.
So if you want to overcome the fear of public speaking, there are no shortcuts and any magic wands. The only way to overcome the fear of speaking is to talk more and more whenever you get the chance. Whatever the size of the crowd and whichever the event, you don’t miss that. Try to overcome that eventually help you to succeed in any field and finally you can overcome the fear of public speaking.
Most people around the world don’t know how to speak and communicate? Because of a lack of communication and speaking skills, some have been very sweet to speak since their childhood.
So, right now change your mindset, start practicing speech and overcome the fear.
Just remember, you are the king to the people when you think of a king. But you are the slave to the people when you think of a slave. So that everything depends on how you think?
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